A lot of women feel that physical or mental abuse is difficult
to pinpoint and to talk about. Especially mental abuse. The
person exposed to this often wonder if it really is that bad,
as there aren´t any physical signs of it, like bruising and/or
broken bones, as is the case with physical abuse.
who are the victims of mental abuse often find that their biggest
problem is that people around them fail to see the severity
of their situation. The
following questions can help you to identify whether or not
you are being abused. There´s also some advice about how to
help yourself in solving your problems. You
will find more information under the heading: Community Information.
What is your relationship like? upp
does this affect you? upp
you feel that there´s something wrong with your relationship,
but you can´t quite put your finger on it?
you feel that your partner controls your life?
you feel that your partner doesn´t respect your thoughts
your partner go to any lengths to win an argument, f. ex.
does he demean you, threaten you or frighten you?
your partner get angry or jealous if you talk to someone
else? Does he accuse you of being unfaithful?
you feel that nothing you do is right in the eyes of your
your partner tell you, that it´s your own fault if he hits
he tell you that nobody else would want you and that you
should be grateful to him for looking after you?
he hold you accountable for every minute of your day?
you come home a little late, are you afraid of how he will
you try to talk to him about your problems, does he call
you names, such as bitch, slut, whore or idiot?
he stop you from going to work or to your school, or does
he stop you from learning Swedish?
your partner threaten to divorce you or to send you back
to your native country?
you want to spend any money, does he hold you accountable
for every krona, or does he tell you that you don´t deserve
you consent to sexual intercourse even though you don´t
want to, because you´re afraid he´ll get angry with you
if you say no?
he insist on having “making-it-up” sex
after you´ve had an argument?
your partner threaten you by saying you´ll never see your
children again if you leave him?
he get angry if you phone a femail friend?
you get the blame for everything that goes wrong?
What can you do about
you find it difficult, or are you afraid of making your
you do anything to try to satisfy your partner, or do you
try to pacify him?
you make excuses for your partner to people around you?
you have a lack of memory, or do you feel confused or find
it difficult to concentrate?
you noticed any changes in your relationship to food, medicines,
alcohol or drugs and do you suffer from sleepingdisorders?
you lost the interest in or the energy to do things you
used to enjoy doing?
you often feel ill, worried, tired or depressed?
you lost touch with your friends, family or with your neighbours?
you lost your self-confidense and fear you would´t be able
to manage on your own?
you turn? upp
and mental abuse is a serious problem as well as a crime.There
is help avaliable to you.
abuse is as serious as physical abuse.
the security and wellfare of you and your children very
abuse can lead to physical abuse, even death.
partner´s behaviour is not your fault.
people you feel you can talk to and turn to for support.
Consider going to see f.ex. a curator or a well-fare officer
to find a person who really listens to you and takes your
situation seriously. Don´t give up if it takes you a bit
of time to find that special person.
have the right to make your own decisions when you feel
ready to do so.
takes time to go through all the motions of being abused
and finding a way out of it. Give yourself all the time
in yourself and what you´ve been through. Beleive in your
own strength. Remember that you, yourself, possess the ultimate
knowledge and the strength within you and that you already
own the means you need to survive.
Women´s Helpline - Kvinnojouren, is there for you and your
children. It will help women who are mentally and/or physically
abused. You can be anonymous when you phone the helpline
if you want to. The women who work there have taken a vow
of silence. Have a look in your local phonebook or visit
www.roks.se or www.kvinnojour.com
on the internet, to find a helpline close to you.
who´s been the subject of violence can turn to the nearest
healthcare centre- vårdcentral-or a hospital emercency room,
gynaecological clinic or psychiatric clicic to receive medical
or psychiatric help.
injuries you might have incured should be documented as
soon as possible so your rights can be upheld in the best
possible way, now or in the future.
is a national and international women´s helpline. You can
phone them if your native language is other than Swedish.
Police have staff that are specially trained to deal with
rapports. You can turn to your nearest police station. A
rapport can also be made on the phone or by writing them
you´re considering to leave your partner, it´s probably
a good idéa to consult a solicitor or a lawyer, especially
if you have children. Have a look in your insurance-papers
if your home-insurance policy cover legal fees. If not,
there´s a chanse you can receive legal aid from the government
to cover any costs you may occur. The lawyer you consult
can help you to sort this out. Before you engage a lawyer,
you should phone the Swedish Bar association: 08-459 03
00, to make sure there are no complaints lodged against
will find more information under the heading Community Information.
will also find more information about local places to turn
to at the end of this document, under the heading Local contactlist.
Information Samhällsinformation upp
The texts below are short summaries. References
will be given to areas of specific interest to you and we
urge you to contact these for more detailed information. You
will find a list of current phone numbers and adresses in
the Borough of Örnsköldsvik at the end of the texts.
Swedish laws apply to everyone visiting the country. Every
man and every woman are equal in the eyes of the law. In Sweden,
a woman has the right to say no to sexual intercourse. This
applys even within a marriage. Infringements, such as female
cirkumcision, is not allowed in Sweden. It´s classified as
abuse.Many countries differentiate between chastism, violence
and abuse. In many countries these methods are accepted to
In Sweden, it´s forbidden for a man to hit or threaten his
wife or children. It´s classified as abuse. It´s classed as
such, if you smack someones cheek with the palm of your hand
or threaten to do so.The use of any kind of violence to bring
your children up is not accepted in Sweden, but classified
as abuse. So is grave infringements on women, sexual abuse,
unlawful threats, molestation etc.These are crimes statuated
in the criminal code and can be punished by imprisonment.For
more information you can turn to your local police station
Residence Permit upp
When a woman comes to Sweden because she has
a relationship to someone already living in the country, she
will be granted a time-limited residence permit.
An extention of this will only be granted if the relationship
is of a permanent nature. If the relationship ends within
two years after having received the permit, she has to leave
the country. Permanent residancy can be grantet after two
years. There is one exception to this rule. A residential
permit can be grantet to a woman who´s relationship has ended
within the two years because she or her children have been
submitted to mental or physical abuse.
It is paramount that the abuse is well documented in some
way, f.ex. by witnesses, doctors or by the police.
A woman who has yet to receive permanent residancy and is
the subject of abuse, should be able to leave her partner
without the risk of being deported.
For more information, please turn to the Immigrant authority
– Migrationsverket – on phone no: 011-15
60 00 or www.migrationsverket.se.
If you want to leave your partner
If you´re considering to leave your partner,
it´s advisable to consult a lawyer, especially if you have
children. Check with your insurace company if your home-insurance
policy cover legal fees. If not, there´s a chanse you can
receive legal aid from the government to cover any costs you
may occur. Questions about this can be answered by the lawyer.
Umeå legal helpline-Umeå Juridikjour- will give you free advice
tuesdays between 18.00-21.00 on phone no: 090-77 97 00.
Terrafem also have a legal help-line.
They have ten lawyers with foreign backgrounds who between
them speak fifteen different languages. If you want to get
in touch with any of these, please call Terrafem´s help-line,
phone no: 020-52 10 10, and tell them in which language you
wish to speak, and they´ll get back to you.Before you engage
a lawyer, you should phone the Swedish Bar association, to
make sure there are no complaints lodged against him/her.
Mutual application upp
If you´re married and want to divorce your
husband, you must turn to the district court house-Tingsrätten.
If you and your husband are in agreement, you can fill in
a form together and send it together with divorce- identity
forms to the court. These identity forms you´ll obtain from
the tax-authority-Skattemyndigheten. When you submit your
application to the court, you´ll have to pay a fee and you´ll
have to state your names and your civic personal numbers.
Information about the fee you can obtain from the court in
the borough you´re
one of you wants to divorce upp
In case only one of you wants to divorce, you
should turn to your local tax-authority office to obtain the
divorce identity forms. Once you have these, write a letter
to the court, stating from whom you want a divorce, including
his name and his civic personal-number. After that, the same
rules apply as for a mutually consented divorce.
If there are children under the age of 16 in
your family or if both you and your husband request time for
consideration, the court can´t decree a divorce between you
until six months have passed. When you have submittet your
application, you´ll eventually receive a message from the
court. It will tell you from what date the consideration time
starts and which are the earliest and the latest dates you´ll
be able to go ahead with your application for divorce. It
will also state the number of your case. To be able to go
ahead with the divorce after the consideration time, you´ll
have to submitt an application form together with new divorce
identity forms to the court, confirming that you wish to do
so.If neither of you go ahead with an application within a
year from the date your consideration time started, the case
will be dismissed by the court and you´ll remain married
Without children upp
If there are no children under the age of 16
in your family, the court can decree a divorce between you
without the time for consideration. They can also do so if
you have lived apart for at least two years whether there
are children under 16 or not. If you have lived apart for
at least two years, you will need to prove this by f.ex. producing
papers from the borough in which you are registred. Identification
forms for divorce you can obtain from your local tax-authority
office or from the National tax-authority´s service phone:
020-567 000. Bear in mind, that if you order the papers on
the phone, they will be sent to your home adress.Application
forms for divorce, you can obtain from the local district
court house-Tingsrätten-or from www.dom.se under the heading “blanketter”
on the internet.For more information
about it all, please contact the court or the tax-authority
office in the borough you´re registred in or visit www.dom.se
and www.rsv.se on the internet.
of injuries upp
If you´ve been the victim
of a crime, you should get any injuries documented as soon
as possible. The best way to do this is to turn to the nearest
healthcare centre,a hospital´s emergency room, gynaecological
or psychiatric clinic. Within the healthcare system, you can
be assured that you will be met by people who have a vast
experience of these types of injuries. You´ll be given the
opportunity to talk to the staff on your own about everything
that´s happened to you. They have taken a vow of silence.
If you need one, a female interpreter will be called upon
to help you. You can also have a woman from the Women´s helpline
present during your examination if you want to. These women
have also taken a vow of silence. Within the healthcare, you
should also be offered the possibility of seeing a curator.
By calling: 118 118, you´ll get the phone number and the adress
of your nearest hospital. In an emergency call 112.<
If you´ve been the victim of a crime, you should
rapport this to the police as soon as possible. It may seem
like a big step to take and you may hesitate to do so at the
time, but you might want to do so in, say one or two years
time. It is then vital that you have as much documentation
as possible, of things that have occured in the past. This
can verify your story.
The police have specially trained staff to deal with this
kind of rapports. You can turn to your nearest police station,
you can also make your rapport on the phone or by writing
them a letter. You are under no obligation to rapport a crime,
but it´s often necessary to enable you to have your rights
When you submit a rapport, the police will make an investigation.
Unless they questioned you when you made the rapport, they
will do so now. The person who committed the crime will also
be heard, and so will anyone who may be a witness. You are
allowed to have someone supporting you present during this
hearing and in any future hearing in a court of law. It´s
up to you to decide if you want to have somebody there with
you and you decide on who that person is. If you don´t have
anybody, you can turn to the Women´s helpline, the helpline
for Victims of crime or to the social-service office in your
borough, and they will help you. If you need to,
you have the right to have a female interpreter present throughout
the whole proceedure.
You can get more information from your local Policestation
or on www.polis.se In an
emergency call 112.
The helpline for victims of crime upp
The National Federation for Vitims of crime-Brottsoffer-Jouren
is an non-profit making organisation. BOJ have about 100 offices
covering all of the police districts in the country. As a
victim, all of the helplines will provide you with advice
and support free of charge.
You will get someone to talk to about the things you´ve been
through, someone who will support you, a support-person. They
can also help you to contact all sorts of various authorities
and guide you through the whole legal process. Several of
the helplines also have trained staff to help and support
the victim ( the plaintiff) as well as any witnesses who have
been called upon to a court hearing.
All of the support-people have been carefully selected and
they have taken a vow of silence.
You can get more information by Brottsofferjouren on:
0200-21 20 19 or on internet www.boj.se.
for victims upp
If you´ve been the victim of any kind of crime, be it battery,
sexual abuse, violation, unlawful threat or any infringement,
you could have the right to economic compensation. It´s called
Brottskadeersättning. If the person who has committed a crime
against you doesn´t have the means to pay the compensation
to you and if there´s no insurance to cover your injuries,
you may have the right to receive the compensation from the
government, the State. That can also apply if the offender
is unknown. The compensation is foremost paid to cover personal
injuries and infringements. The crime should normally have
been rapported to the police. You can get more information
from:Brottsoffermyndigheten, phone no. 090-70 82 00 or www.brottsoffermyndigheten.se.
The women´s helpline-Kvinnojouren is there
to help you and your children. They will help women who are
mentally and/or physically abused. The helpline has years
of experience of working with women who are, or have been,
the victims of violence. Their aim is to help, support and
protect abused women or if they live under the threat of being
abused. The women you´ll encounter there have taken a vow
of silence so they are not allowed to talk about you or your
family to anybody outside of the organisation. You can be
anonymous if you want to. If you turn to them, they can amongst
other things help you with lodgings in one of their secret
flats, somewhere i your town. If it seems necessary, it´s
possible for them
to have you transferred to another place in Sweden.
To find a helpline office close to you, you can contact the
social-services office in the borough you´re in and they will
help you to find the nearest one. Or have a look on the internet,
Terrafem is an international and national helpline
that specializes in helping women with a foreign background.
There you will be offered the possibility of speaking your
own language with a woman of the same cultural background
as yourself. Currently, Terrafem have women who speak about
35 different native languages between them.
The Women´s helpline can help you to get in touch with them
or you can phone them yourself on phone no: 020-52 10 10.
The call to them can not be seen on your phonebill and it
doesn´t cost you anything.
The women in Terrafem have also taken a vow of silence. More
information about them you´ll find on: www.terrafem.org.
It´s often the case, that the women who suffer
are being abused, harassed and threatened by their present
or former husband, cohabitee, boyfriend, Father, brother or
by some other relative. In Sweden, we
have a thing called a Visitingban-Besöksförbud. Normally it
means that whoever´s threatening or harassing you, is forbidden
to see you or take any kind of contact with you, be it by
phone, letter, e-mail, sms, through a messenger or whatever.
The visitingban has a time-limit, usually a year at the most,
but in can be extended by a year at a time.
Any violation of this ban, can be punished with a fine or
by imprisonment for up to one year.
If you want a visitingban to be imposed on someone or if you
have any questions about it, you can turn to your local police
station or to the nearest Chamber of Prosecution
For some, the situation can be of such a serious
nature, that a safetypackageis necessary.
It contains a mobile phone, an assault alarm and an ansaphone.You
can apply for this package from the police
Protected adress upp
If you need to keep your adress or any other
information about you secret, because of threats or harassements,
you can apply for this at your local tax-authority office.
There are two different ways of protecting your adress.
indication of secrecy
This means that any information about
you, is not allowed to be given to anybody who isn´t entitled
to it. Information in the Civic register of residancy, is
normally official and daily transferred to other central authorities.
If you want to apply for an indication of secrecy, you´ll
have to do so at the tax-authority office in the borough you
are registred. The application must be in writing and contain
your civic personal number, name and adress and a detailed
account of why you want the information about you be kept
a secret. Your reasons should be confirmed and substantiated
by f.ex. a social authority, the police,
or by a court-order issued by a court of law or a prosecutor,
having granted you a visitorsban.An application
form can be found at any tax-authority office. If you´re granted
the indication, you can have your telephone subscription kept
secret by Telia. Call them on:
020-55 66 44. If you do have the indication of secrecy, it
is very important that you keep the tax-authority informed
of any change of adress or move you make.
registration of residance
Kvarskrivning is an other way of keeping your
adress a secret. You have to apply for this in writing at
your local tax-authority office. It means that you, after
your application, can be allowed to remain registred in your
previous borough for up to three years. Your actual where-abouts
or adress will not be seen in the national civic registration
ledgers. It will state that you are registred by the Parish
and your adress will be refered to the local tax-authority´s
adress in your previous borough. All of your post will be
sent to them. The manager of that office will have your actual
adress in safe-keeping and will forward your post to you.
You can find more information about the Indication of secrecy
and lingering registration from your local tax-authority office
or on www.rsv.se.
identity Feigned personal data
If the threat of persecution of you is of a
very grave nature and when the other means of protecting you
aren´t sufficient, you can be given a new identity for up
to five years. You will be given a new name and a new civic
registration number. You apply to the
National Police Authority. Phone that authority for more information
(Rikspolisstyrelsen) on: 08-40 11 000. You will come to their
switchboard, ask to speak to someone about a new identity
to obtain this mean of protection.
Borough of Örnsköldsvik
Within the borough of Örnsköldsvik, there are
a number of authorities you can turn to if you need help
advice centre - Rådgivningsbyrån upp
This is where you turn if you have any questions
conserning any kind of misuse. You can be anonymous if you
want to and normally you can get an appointment to see someone
for a personal meeting within a week.
You can go on your own or together with a relative or a next
of kin. Among other things, the advice centre can offer you:
Consultation in private, together with your family or with
Individual plans of rehabilitation.For more informaton, call
0660-888 30 or 0660-888 28
The Victoria open rehabilitation
- Victoria öppenbehandling upp
At the Victoria rehab, you can get help if
you have a problem with misuse and addiction to alcohol and/or
drugs/pills. They will help you to understand how this problem
affects the individual and the surroundings. For more information,
please call: 0660-888 31.
The Family Advice centre - Familjerådgivningen upp
The Family advice centre is an independant
organisation built on a voulantry basis and it´s strictly
confidential. You can be anonymous if you want to. The organisation
is under no obligation to document any cases. Their main task
is to participate in talks together with parties who are involved
in a crisis or a conflict, f.ex. between a couple or within
a family, and try to help them to solve their problems. For
more information, please call: 0660-888 87 or 0660-886 89.
Helpline - Kvinnogemenskap - in Örnsköldsvik upp
The Women´s helpline-Kvinnojouren-in Örnsköldsvik
is a non-profit making organisation. We have been operating
since 1983. In many towns the activity is run openly but in
Örnskölsvik we have chosen to work in a confidential manner,
which means our adress is secret.
Women irrespective of nationality, religion or social status,
are subjects of abuse by men they know. The woman´s helpline
is there for these women, to help and support them by listening
to them, advice them or offer them accomodation in our sheltered
flat. Our aim is to help any abused or threatened woman who
turns to us for help, protection and support. Our work is
built upon respect and empathy for the human beeing. We don´t
hate men, but we take exception to the actions and behaviour
of some men. We want the women who turn to us, to feel that
they are respected, that they receive the help they need and
that they will feel strenghtened as a woman. We don´t want
to make them feel that they are being influenced or dictated
by us, we want to support them in whatever decision they make,
be it considering a divorce, to make a rapport to the police
or anything they want. The active helpline woman, pledges
to never talk about the women she comes into contact with
to anybody outside of the organisation.If you or anybody you
know, need some advice or help, please contact us. You can
reach us on the phone, 24 h. a day. Phone: 070-270 00 66 or
E-mail adress: firstname.lastname@example.org
contactlist in Örnsköldsvik
helpline in Örnsköldsvik, 24 h a day,
phone no: 070-270 00 66 or
Police in Örnsköldsvik.
Switchboard phone: 11414
0660-793 23 - fax
Adress: Nytorgsgatan 1, Örnsköldsvik
Openinghours: on weekdays 09.00-15.00,
Open weekdays 07.30-17.00
Switchboard phone: 0660-890 00
The Emergencyroom is open 24 h, phone: 0660-891 34,89136
Open weekdays 08.00-17.00.
Phone no: 0660-893 30
The psychiatric clinic
Open weekdays 08.00-17.00.
Phone no: 0660-897 00
Open weekdays 08.00-17.00
Ankaret 0660-29 27 10
Domsjö 0660-29 26 20
Själevad 0660-575 60
Bjästa 0660-899 53
Bredbyn 0661-65 41 01
Husum 0663-199 20
information: 24 h 1177
Dentist on-duty: 1177
borough Care unit for Individuals and families
Kommunens Individ- och familjeomsorg:
switchboard phone.no: 0660-88000
borough Family advice centre
Phone no 0660-886 87,88689
borough advice centre, misuse unit
Phone no: 0660-888 30,88828
borough immigration office
Phone no: 0660-880 00
district court house
Phone no: 0660-873 50
tax-authority, Örnsköldsvik Phone no: 0771-778 778
The tax-authority servicephone: 020-567 000
victims of crime helpline
Phone no: 0200-21 20 19
victims of crime authority Phone no: 0090-70 82 00
International and national women´s helpline
Phone no: 020-52 10 10
legal advice helpline, will give you free legal advice on
and wednesdays 18.00-21.00.
Phone no: 090-779700
Before you engage a lawyer, you should
phone the Swedish Bar association: 08-459 03 00, to make
sure no complaints has been lodged against him/her.The Women´s
helpline i Örnsköldsvik reccommend: Marie Tors, of the lawfirm
Abersten HB, phone no: 0660-153 75.